Understanding Our Approach and Its Importance
A common question among intended parents pursuing surrogacy is whether surrogate mothers can breastfeed the babies they carry. At our organization, we have a clear policy: surrogate mothers do not breastfeed the babies after birth. This decision is rooted in our commitment to emotional support for surrogate mothers and the overall well-being of everyone involved in the surrogacy process.
The Emotional Landscape of Surrogacy
Surrogacy is a profound journey filled with a range of emotions. For surrogate mothers, the experience can include feelings of joy, anticipation, and even apprehension as they prepare to bring a child into the world. We recognize that adding the element of breastfeeding can complicate these emotions and potentially trigger a bond that makes it difficult to separate from the newborn after birth. While bonding is a natural aspect of pregnancy, we believe that it is essential to maintain clear boundaries to support the surrogate mothers emotionally.
Our primary concern is the psychological and emotional health of the surrogate mothers. By establishing a clear policy regarding breastfeeding, we aim to prevent any unnecessary emotional strain or attachment that could lead to discomfort or complications in the future. It is crucial for surrogate mothers to focus on their own well-being, knowing they are contributing to a wonderful cause without the added stress of breastfeeding postpartum.
The Importance of Colostrum and Breast Milk
While we understand the immense benefits of breast milk, particularly colostrum, which is produced in the first few days after delivery, we also recognize that modern baby formulas are carefully formulated to provide optimal nutrition for infants. These highly-regarded formulas offer many of the key benefits that breast milk provides, ensuring that newborns receive the necessary nutrients for their development.
However, we acknowledge the unique advantages of colostrum — especially for premature babies — in building their immune systems and providing essential nutrients. For intended parents who are deeply concerned about their newborn receiving breast milk, we offer the option to negotiate with the surrogate mother shortly after birth. If both parties feel comfortable with the arrangement, we do not discourage surrogate mothers from providing pumped breast milk for the first few days.
We have found that many surrogate mothers who are emotionally attuned to the needs of the intended parents often express a desire to help by providing pumped milk. This act not only supports the intended parents but also brings a sense of fulfillment and happiness to the surrogate mothers, as they feel they are contributing something significant to the family they have worked so hard for throughout the pregnancy.
To facilitate this understanding and cooperation, we encourage open communication between intended parents and surrogate mothers. With open dialogue, discussions can center around how and when to make this arrangement, ensuring it is approached with care and mutual respect.
If you have more questions or would like to explore details about our policies, we encourage you to reach out to us.
